Is This Happening To You?

• I worry I will make my partner angry.
• I apologize to my partner about my behavior.
• I gave up fun activities because my partner does not like me to do them.
• Sometimes I'm afraid of my partner.
• My partner makes fun of how I look, talk, dress, or my moral choices.
• I often loan money to my partner.
• My friends tell me I have changed since I have been in this relationship.
• My partner says that if I "shape up", he wouldn't have to be so hard on me.
• I hide bruises my partner has given me.
• My partner blames most of our problems on me, my friends, and my family.
• No matter what I do, my partner is never satisfied.
• I'm afraid that if I break off this relationship, my partner will hurt me.
• My partner says that he would rather die than lose me.
• My partner accuses me of flirting with other people, some of whom I hardly know.
• I wear only what my partner likes.
• I used to love to eat ____, but my partner doesn't like it, so I don't eat it anymore.
• My partner forces me into having sex when I don't want to.
• My partner gets so mad when I disagree that I give in to avoid a fight.
• I often make excuses for my partner's behavior.
• My partner has threatened to hurt or kill me, my children, or my family.
• My partner has hurt my pet.
• My partner has hit, slapped, punched, strangled, kicked, grabbed, restrained, burned, or pushed me.