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warning signs
  • I worry I will make my partner angry.

  • I apologize to my partner about my behavior.

  • I gave up fun activities because my partner does not like me to do them.

  • Sometimes I'm afraid of my partner.

  • My partner makes fun of how I look, talk, dress, or my moral choices.

  • I often loan money to my partner.

  • My friends tell me I have changed since I have been in this relationship.

  • My partner says that if I "shape up", he/she wouldn't have to be so hard on me.

  • I hide bruises my partner has given me.

  • My partner blames most of our problems on me, my friends, and my family.

  • No matter what I do, my partner is never satisfied.

  • I'm afraid that if I break off this relationship, my partner will hurt me.

  • My partner says that he/she would rather die than lose me.

  • My partner accuses me of flirting with other people, some of whom I hardly know.

  • I wear only what my partner likes.

  • I used to love to eat ____, but my partner doesn't like it, so I don't eat it anymore.

  • My partner forces me into having sex when I don't want to.

  • My partner gets so mad when I disagree that I give in to avoid a fight.

  • I often make excuses for my partner's behavior.

  • My partner has threatened to hurt or kill me, my children, or my family.

  • My partner has hurt my pet.

  • My partner has hit, slapped, punched, strangled, kicked, grabbed, restrained, burned, or pushed me.